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Watch: How to Train Your Dragon

2010 Dreamworks production How to Train Your Dragon is not just another animated film, but a must watch for children and adults alike. Ok. That was a pretty sweeping statement, but what can I say, I really really enjoy animated movies with positive, feel-good messages. It was nominated for Best Animated Feature and Best Original Score, so my admiration for the film is backed by the Academy. It also has a pretty stellar cast of voices including: Gerard Butler (swoon), America Ferrera, Craig Ferguson, Jonah Hill, and Jay Baruchel.

The film is set in a mythical viking land where dragons are a constant threat. Each generation is trained to fight and slay the beasts to protect their heritage and home. The main character, Hiccup, is a young boy whose father has led their people and fought valiantly for their cause. As Hiccup begins his training, he and his father have little faith in his abilities. In an attempt to prove himself, Hiccup sets a dragon trap and ends up snaring the most feared and valued type of dragon–a night fury. They have never before been seen, let alone killed. Just as he is about to cut out the night fury’s heart and return a hero, Hiccup sees the same fear in its eyes that he had experienced for so long as an outcast among his people, and instead cuts the animal free.

Later Hiccup returns to look for the dragon and find out why it did not kill him as it could have and always does. The night fury, who soon becomes known as Toothless, has a damaged tail-wing and cannot fly. Over the course of the film you see a beauty relationship between boy and beast develop. Hiccup builds a prosthetic tail for Toothless and learns how to train and fly on him. What’s more, everything Hiccup learns from Toothless translates back into the Viking dragon-slaying classroom and Hiccup gradually becomes the star student, learning that dragons are indeed not vicious blood-thirsty killers but rather large pets.

As you can guess, it all eventually goes wrong. Hiccup is discovered, there are fights, terrifying near-death moments, renouncing of kinship, of course love (including a magic-carpet-esque dragon ride), epic battles of man and beast, and, eventually, forgiveness, understanding, and a shift in human consciousness; all ending in peace and harmony. This model never gets old.

What really got me hooked was Toothless himself. He is a feline of a dragon (and if you know me…cats play an integral role in some pretty important relationships in my life). It felt like I was watching a large, fire-breathing kitty, praying to god it was a real creature and I might someday find one that wants to be my best friend and go for high-speed flights across oceans or maybe even save worlds together. If you are looking for a movie that lets your imagination run wild with it while your emotions rise and fall with the plot, a movie that provides elements of fantasy with the light-heartedness and moral lessons of a classic Disney flick, this is the way to go. Enjoy!

NOTE: I spent this past weekend with a 4 and 5 year old, which always provides a fun, new perspective and sweet movie recommendations (they know their stuff!).


A Wednesday

Here’s to starting the day off right!

As an early riser, I have TONS of time to accomplish things before work. Yesterday I purchased the book Vortex of Conflict. Its the latest by Dan Caldwell, a professor of mine,  who will be doing a reading tomorrow night. Forgetting the density of academic work, I assumed I’d give it a run through in two days so I would be prepared with questions and interesting commentary. Yep, no biggy just 400 pages of academic writing on history and U.S. foreign policy toward Afghanistan, Pakistan and Iraq. You know just some light reading on a Wednesday morning. Despite the change in pace from my typical book choices, I am really enjoying this one. It feels good to read something academic on an area that I am constantly reading more social/cultural commentaries on. Reminder: always seek out different perspectives.

So far, great book! Prof. Caldwell provides a solid historical framework on each individual country, the evolution of terrorism and the American response, allowing him to explore the whys and hows of policy and access its present and potential implications. More to come once I’ve finished…  For now a fun fact: Osama bin Laden attended King Abdulaziz University in Jeddah–a school where I was offered a teaching position.

After some pretty heavy reading and Islamic contemplations, I pulled out The Bookseller of Kabul to reread the last chapter. It’s a true story that follows a family in Afghanistan (and, at times, Pakistan), focusing on individual experiences and how society, culture, Islam and gender play into the lives of real people in Kabul. This is the type of book I hope to write someday so I love looking over areas I’ve highlighted to remind myself of my interests and the person I am.

After getting into a travel, explore, write mentality, I jumped on the computer and saw that a dear friend was settled into her new home in Thailand, another friend emailed for China hiking advice, and yet another is trying to choose which continent to visit….

I realized: a) I have amazing, inspiring friends and LOVE that we share interests and goals, and b) I need to dance.

To conclude a unique start to another Wednesday, I put on a silky long dress from India, turned on some Rusted Root: Send Me on My Way, and danced my heart out. You know that kind of flailing, eyes closed, feeling the breeze you create, freedom/peace-loving dance. Yep. Try starting the day letting go of every care in the world. Maybe your form of meditation doesn’t involved dancing in flowy dresses, but we all could work toward calming our minds in someway. It’s a regular necessity (especially after reading about The Bush Doctrine) and puts you in a content, neutral place to start the day when you might not want to do whatever it is you have to, like sit in an office for 8 hours. It’s unnatural really. Happy Hump Day!


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There’s been a new addition to my life. It has changed how I feel and uplifted my spirits. I am more comfortable and things just feel “right”. Last night was the first night we spent together. It felt amazing to be wrapped up, warm and safe, like I was floating on a cloud. I am ready for us to spend nights on the beach together looking up at the stars or on a mountain after spending the day climbing. My new sleeping bag has brought peace to my semi-sleepless nights and I couldn’t be happier.

While in pursuit of the perfect sleeping bag (mummy, synthetic, 20 degrees or less, and a color that isn’t pink or purple), I was introduced to SteepandCheap. Every 20 minutes or so a new deal pops up on the screen. It’s all outdoor gear around 50% off. So I got a sweet bag to sleep in for way less than retail. It’s also really fun to have the site up on the side of my screen to track at work. I almost just bought a 2 person tent but realized my sleeping bag doesn’t need it’s own space. Heck, me and my bag don’t even need a tent. Sleeping under the open night sky is way more our style. Can’t wait! How I just learned of this website is beyond me, but outdoorsy types: check it, steepandcheap. Peace.


5 Ways to Deepen Your Yoga Practice

{repost from fitsugar}

Source: Nadya Andreeva, NYC-based yoga Instructor

Yoga is a powerful instrument that can bring health, energy, and peace to anyone willing to devote time to a regular yoga practice. Yoga revives your muscles and opens joints, it makes you comfortable in your own body and with time encompasses all aspects of a human life. With a regular yoga practice you sleep better, wake up more rested, have more energy throughout the day, your mind becomes clear and more focused. Suddenly things that created chaos out of your life seem just another interesting challenge. Life in general becomes a lot more colorful.

A true yoga practice involves multiple aspects and asanas are just one of the them. Asanas create a healthy strong body, help develop body awareness, and ensure than your body functions in the most efficient way. Asana practice, however, is not an end in itself, it is just an instrument. The same way a foreign language is an instrument to better communication. While yoga is not about twisting yourself up in a knot, asana practice is crucial to anyone who wants to stay young and healthy.

As a yoga instructor, I meet a lot of yoga students and many of them categorize themselves into ‘levels’ based on how long they’ve been practicing asanas.  Someone who started yoga just a month ago is putting a ‘beginner’ label on himself while a yogi with 5 years of practice is certain to consider himself ‘advanced’. In reality the length of asana practice rarely makes a considerable difference. Once a student learns basic asana names and major alignment points so he doesn’t have to rely on nearby students for visual cues, we all become even in our yoga adventure. Crazy looking arm-balances don’t make anyone an advanced yogi, otherwise all Cirque du Soleil acrobats would be enlightened yogis. Well, they are not, even though all of them are incredibly talented, flexible, and strong. So what does make one’s yoga practice more ‘advanced’ (deeper)? What takes asana practice to the next level? And how can you get the most benefit out of your yoga practice in 2011?

1. Do not eat 2-3 hours before yoga practice – you might have heard this one before but sometimes it is difficult to time yoga classes and meals at proper intervals, and it might seems that a light snack doesn’t really interfere with a yoga class, plus you would rather not think about food the entire practice so you get something small anyway…   While these are valid points, it is best to avoid any kind of food before yoga. Our stomach takes up a lot of extra blood circulation to digest a meal. Digestion requires up to 60% of blood circulation. Any exercise including yoga redirect blood flow away from stomach to extremities which will have a negative effect on your digestion. Another reason to stay away from food before yoga is the depth of asanas. Twists, for example, are very difficult on a full stomach, while peacock (Mayurasana) is close to impossible! You will never know your true range of motion in most asanas unless you try them on an empty stomach. This is one on the reasons that I always practice in the morning before breakfast after a glass of warm water. -

2. Breathe – breath is life. The same way our body is dead without breath, asana is just a physical pose without proper unobstructed breathing. In balancing poses we tend to hold our breath, while Awkward Chair speeds it up after 30 seconds and we just plainly lose tract of it when transitioning from High Lunge into Warrior 3. Doing asanas can be challenging enough even without the breath but staying aware of the breath during a yoga class can be very rewarding! Start by deepening your breath in simple asanas. Let’s take a Supine Spinal Twist. Once you settle into the pose, take your time to relax and give your breathe an opportunity to move freely through your entire body. Move your attention along your body with the breath and if you find any points of tension, release them with an exhale. Keep doing mental scanning rounds for as long as you can comfortably stay in the asana. Try not to lose track of your breath. Let it be complete and full. Start paying attention to the way your body slightly moves with every breath. The movement is most noticeable in the stomach and ribs. Slowly let your attention include other parts of your body as well. Observe your entire body becoming lighter with an inhale and relax with an exhale. The more you relax, the more your muscles will melt into the ideal form for your body in any given asana. Practicing asana in this way can be truly transformational. It requires a lot of patience but takes body/mind connection to a completely new level.

3. Close your eyes – keep your eyes closed whenever you can comfortably do so. It will help keep attention internally which in turn will make you more aware of the effect of each asana on your body. Eventually it can become a source of a body intuition that will help you find asana variations and transitions specifically suited to your body. This internal guide is the best teacher you will ever find. During your next yoga class try not to look around and evaluate students around you but close your eyes and let your internal teacher emerge.

4. Be positive – never say I can’t before you try something or get angry at yourself for falling over. You do yoga mostly for yourself and if you fall out of a balancing pose, no one will care besides you. So take the ego out of it. If you feel like doing a challenging arm balance is essential to your practice and you would like to learn it, do it! Don’t look for excuses or avoid trying it in the open. Remember that doing that arm balance is not going to make you a better yogi but it might make you stronger and boost your self-confidence. If you decide to learn a new challenging asana do it as a kid, with curiosity, energy, and a big smile! Ask for assistance, try the asana, fall over, get back up and try it again. Every instructor will be happy to help you and no one will ever judge you! We were all there once and we still are but with some other asana.

5. Take 5 minutes of quiet time before and after asanas – make it a habit. Give yourself 5 minutes to relax, bring your focus internally, and self-reflect before and after you practice. A few minutes in silence with closed eyes will let you tune in, settle, and empty your mind. All you need to do is just observe your body, the way you feel, scan all major joints and muscles, and breathe deeply. Before practice tell yourself that you will finish thinking about all your projects afterward and try to dedicate the time of your practice only to yourself not your grocery shopping list or a business meeting. In the 5 minutes after Savasana observe the way your practice made you feel and set an intention on how you want to feel once you open your eyes. Our brain is a powerful instrument, it can implement any one of your intentions!


How To Be Alone

Recently, I have been absorbing time with myself. Perhaps I am getting older, but I really enjoy just being around me and doing things that I am interested in. I don’t feel the need to have people around very often…just me, my space, my thoughts, books, music… Having Shanghai at my disposal has been perfect for this. I can get lost in the city, then find myself content at a wine bar, reading outside or talking to whoever happens to be near me. It’s wonderful.

Sitting at a cafe in Beijing alone, I had written a long journal entry about what I value in spending time alone and how I feel it is healthy and necessary to do. I find myself to be a much happier, balanced and peaceful person this way. Well, when I got home and was about to type these thoughts into a long, confusing blog post, I received an email from the one, the only, Maggie Glass. It contained a video of essentially the same thing I wrote about. Life is funny like that, huh? Rather than share my journal, I’m posting the video. I think it is much more effective and beautiful. Plus you get visuals.

My journal entry was more in tune with the 2nd half of the video. Many situations that I have such fond memories of would not have happened if I were not alone–including ones that day in Beijing. Alone allows you to open up to things around you while teaching you more about the person within. Alone breathes life into you that is sometimes forgotten if you are constantly focused on others around you. Embrace alone.

Thanks to Meilin. I hope you enjoy the video. Please let me know your thoughts!


How to Be Alone

by Andrea Dorfman


Y+ Yoga Gets an A+

Y+ Yoga has two studios in Shanghai–Xintiandi and Fuxing Lu. Since I live right near Xintiandi, that’s the one I go to. I was introduced to the studio by my roommate/landlord’s girlfriend who is local Shanghainese and super sweet. They have tons of different classes and levels, so you can find whatever you are looking for–flow yoga, yin yoga, meditation, hot yoga, stretch, detox flow, etc. More than 80 classes per week are offered in Chinese and English!

Xintiandi Studio: 2/F, 202 Hubin Lu near Shunchang Lu  —-  湖滨路202号2楼近顺昌路

Fuxing Road Studio: 2/F, Bldg 2, 299 Fuxing Xi Lu near Huashan Lu  —-  复兴西路299号2号楼2楼近华山路


A Monday Night in China

I am staying with a friend until he recovers from a recent surgery. He happens to live in the neighborhood where all my favorite spa/bathhouses are. Last night his lady friend was over, so I decided to go for a late night run. It was wonderful–30ish degrees, that Christmas chill in the air, dimly lit Chinese streets. I wouldn’t have changed a thing. While I tend to be a person who emphasizes the journey over the destination…this run was more about the destination. I ran myself to my favorite Korean bathhouse, New Star on Jinhui Road.

I walked my sweaty bum in there around 21:30, handed over my shoes and beelined for the women’s shower area. Here’s my typical routine. Arrive at the locker and get completely naked. China has made me much more comfortable with my body. It is really nice. So everyone’s naked (women’s only area!) and I grab a number to get in line for a body scrub. First you have to take a thorough shower. There are stand up or sit down stations. I opted to sit because there is a mirror in front of your seat and I’m vain and lazy. Plus, you can just chill and scrub yourself. There are girls and women of all ages just naked and enjoying the wet room. I personally love seeing families together. Mom, Grandma and children just cleaning up! It is a great place to people watch. Benefit of being in China: it’s totally ok to stare and look at other people. Granted you have to be alright with people giving you a good hard up and down, but it’s nothing really. Keep in mind, you are completely naked the entire time you are in the wet area during the scrubs, massages and all. So be prepared for this. It can be overwhelming to the American mind if you are not used to this type of environment or just do not like being naked!

After my shower, I move between the different temperature hot tubs and wait for my number to be called. To give you a better picture of the layout of this particular bathhouse, you walk through double doors from the locker room into one giant room “wet room” (if you will) with stand up and sit down showers all over. The  pools or hot tubs are straight across the room under a large dome that makes it always seem like day time. There is a steam room and a sauna off of the giant wet room to the left. There is also another wet room off the large shower, hot tub one that is filled with 12 plastic massage tables where they do the body scrubs and wet massages. This is my favorite! There are many options. This time I opted for the usual body scrub where they use these intense scrubbing mitts that remove ALL your dead skin. If you have a lot, there will be piles of grayish skin all over you and the table. It feels amazing! I particularly like New Star’s scrub because they are very thorough, take their time and  get everywhere (literally). They cover you in milk to do the scrub, which smells surprisingly good. After it is done, she washes you with soap and you go rinse off. I then returned to the table to be massaged with honey. Yes, just straight honey, after which, you are covered in plastic so your skin absorbs everything. She then covers your face in cucumber and continues the honey massage. I can’t begin to describe how awesome it is. I want to do this every day. You walk out with new skin! Just writing about it, makes me want to go back tonight. There are other treatments listed on the wall, but this is the basic one I prefer.

After the milk and honey scrub, I shower again, exit the wet area, dry off and am given oversized pajamas. I make my way to the co-ed saunas, get myself some ginger tea and lay around sweating everything out of my body for a few hours while reading. I don’t understand why this is not the most popular activity in the entire world. It’s sheer bliss, especially when you find a bathhouse you really like. It is possible to have a so so experience. So, it is worth searching for the right place!

 

While I was reading in a little sauna hut (the floor in this one is covered in volcanic rocks), a guy asked me in Chinese if I could read ok in this light. When I looked up he was shocked and said, “I thought you were Chinese!” I beamed with excitement at hearing this. I said, “No no, but I would like to be.” He laughed. I’m so witty in Chinese. I had made a friend! We talked for a long time. He is from Inner Mongolia and in Shanghai for business. He works in the garment industry. Often people who are traveling will just stay overnight in a bathhouse because it is cheaper than a hotel and, in my opinion, much more comfortable. I have been thinking…next time I travel through China, I might just sleep around in bathhouses! Anyhow, my new friend is a great guy. I got to see photos of his wife, parents and son (who I accidentally called his daughter…he quickly indicated that the child is wearing red, which means it’s a boy…who knew). He will be in the states in January, so we exchanged information said a sweaty goodbye and parted ways. It was already 1:30! Time flies in a bathhouse. I considered staying overnight, it was so relaxing. One of the best parts is that all of this cost maybe $30USD. A worthwhile experience. I headed out into the brisk night air feeling refreshed and relaxed. A perfect way to spend a Monday night indeed.


Korean Bathhouse in Shanghai

Since I had two friends in Shanghai from out of town (Andrew from Dalian and Alan from New York), I thought spending a rainy day at a bathhouse was in order. I am slightly addicted to bathhousees and have been attempting to try as many as possible throughout the city. Today, I decided on one in a Korean neighborhood called New Star. It is in the Gubei/Hongqiao area at 1 Jinhui Nan Lu (金汇南路1号).

Thumbs up to New Star. I highly recommend it out of the spas I have been to so far. Heated floors, great hot tubs and my favorite body scrub I have ever gotten. They were extremely thorough and provided many scrub options (milk, honey, salt, massages) in English. After spending a good hour hanging around naked in the women’s wet spa area and having my scrub, I met the guys at the restaurant where they were finishing up lunch (I took a little longer than planned so they went ahead and ordered. Good call guys). We wandered the floors of the bathhouse feeling out what to do with our day. What I love about this one is they have the co-ed sauna area to sprawl in. By the way, everyone is wearing pajamas at this point. The saunas are in these nifty little round, hut structures and they vary in temperature, humidity, etc. Just like the sauna in Dalian (which I miss dearly!).

Andrew being cupped.

We decided to go for the heavy duty treatments first. I did not want to make the guys too nervous, but TCM massage (Traditional Chinese Medicine) can be rough. In Chinese, it’s called tui na (推拿), literally “push, take”….which is what they do with your skin and muscles. It is painful at times, but totally worth it. Following the massage, Alan decided he was finished and Andrew and I got scraping and cupping done. Having all 3 treatments in a row is a doozy! I have done massage and cupping together before, but this was my first scraping experience. It sounds worse than it is. They kept saying my back was pretty good, but Andrew’s was terrible. You can almost see that based on our level of injury when all was done:

My back after tuina, scraping & cupping

Andrew's back after tuina, scraping & cupping

The men seemed to feel beaten down and sore so they went to get foot massages from two giggled Chinese girls, while I headed to the saunas with my book and some tea. I could spend everyday in the sauna with books and tea. Completely peaceful and afterwards you feel so much healthier and your skin glows! Do not let the photos scare you off! I highly, highly recommend a bathhouse experience. You can opt out of any treatments that leave marks. Some days I just go to hang out in the wet spa then lay in the saunas without getting any major treatments. Great place to detox, lounge with friends, or relax with yourself.